Top 3 Fertility Lubricants – Best Fertility Friendly Lubricants When Trying to Conceive

Baby-making is simple. You need the sperm to reach the egg. Then why does it seem so complicated? When it comes to ovulation we have just a few precious days to get the sperm where we need them and we want to do everything in our power to help them get there. In my previous article I addressed the effects of sex position on fertility. So what’s the deal with lube? Does lubricant help the sperm get a head start or does it slow the sperm down? So what is the best lube for ttc?

What’s the deal with Lube and fertility friendly lube?

Most lubricants make it more difficult for couples to become pregnant. These commercially available lubricants are often too acidic and can damage the sperm. This makes trying to conceive. However, it is important to know that lubricant should not be used as a form of contraception. Although lubricant can slow down sperm, it is not effective enough to be considered contraception unless used in conjunction with spermicide.

Some couples may benefit from the use of lubricant. I have already told you in a previous article that the key to pregnancy is having frequent sex. After months of trying to conceive, sex can become a chore, making lubricant necessary and desirable. Not all fertility friendly lubricant is created equal. I’ve done the research and listed the top 3 safest fertility lubricants out there:

Preseed Fertility Lubricant

Pre-seed fertility lubricant

Preseed lubricant is the only lubricant that has been shown in clinical trials to not impair sperm quality and therefore not affect pregnancy outcomes . This lubricant has been tested in many trials and appears not to impair a couple’s ability to conceive. It is the same pH and quality as fertile cervical mucus. This may make Preseed the best lube for getting pregnant.

My biggest concern with Preseed lubricant is that it does contain parabens. It contains methylparaben and propylparaben. These chemicals acts as preservatives in the lubricant. Parabens have been found to cause reproductive health problems and cancer. Parabens also impair sperm quality when evaluated in clinical trials. So although the lubricant may not directly impair sperm quality, levels of parabens in the lubricant may contribute to impaired sperm quality over time.

BabyDance Fertility Lubricant   

BabyDance Fertility Lubricant 

Recently, Isolove came out with a new product on the market- BabyDance Fertility Lubricant. Isolove used the same tested theories from Pre-Seed to come up with the formulation for BabyDance. It is the same pH, same concentration and contains some of the same ingredients. However it has one big difference.

BabyDance Fertility Lubricant is Paraben Free!

This means you should get the same benefits from Pre-seed without risking the negative effects of parabens. However, let me warn you: BabyDance Fertility Lubricant has not yet been tested in clinical trials. According to Isolove, the FDA has tested and approved BabyDance Fertility Lubricant. This is different than being tested on humans in clinical trials. You can expect that it most likely will not impair fertility, but its safety profile is not yet as strong as Pre-Seed.

BabyDance Fertility Lubricant comes in individual tubes. I love this, because it means the manufacturers didn’t have to include preservatives such as parabens in the formula. However, it only comes with 6, and if you only use this product 6 times, it comes out to $3.33 per use, which is a lot. Each tube contains 0.1oz, which is not a lot. Just for comparison, Pre-seed is one tube with 1.4oz of lubricant.  So keep in mind you are getting much less volume with this lubricant.

ToConceive Vaginal Moisturizer & Lubricant

ToConceive Vaginal Gel & Lubricant

I recently discovered ToConceive Vaginal Moisturizer & Lubricant. It is slightly different from Pre-Seed and Babydance. This product is intended as a vaginal moisturizer to encourage your body to produce its own fertile cervical mucus. You can see how this peaked my interest! No matter what products pharmaceutical companies produce, it will never be as good as your own biologic fertile cervical mucus.

So what does the research say? ToConceive’s website claims that this product performed well in clinical trials. They claim that this product increases natural lubricant in 90% of women over 30. However, I could not find the study in my search or on their website. So I cannot speak to the performance of this product. However, I can assume based on how new it is, that the research behind it is not as robust as it is for Pre-Seed.

ToConceive is paraben-free!

So what’s my opinion? It is an expensive experiment. The directions state to apply it to the external vagina every day, and then use additional packets with intercourse. This means a month-long supply of 40 packets costs $25 on amazon or $50 on their website (at the time of writing this article). This expense can add up. On the other hand, you only need to use fertility lubricants when having sex. This decreases the overall cost.

I do really like that this product comes in individual packets. This allows it to be paraben-free and you don’t need to worry about bacteria growing on your lubricant. This also makes it convenient to grab in the moment or pack for a trip.


  • Do you have the time and money? … try ToConceive and let me know what you think!
  • Are you looking for something evidence-based and affordable… stick with Pre-seed.
  • If you are somewhere in the middle, and looking for something Paraben-free… try Babydance.

My recommendation has to go to Preseed, mostly because of the proof that it works and the low price.